There's alotta guys I know that wanna get married... I am not only speaking of you (you know who you are).  They really love their girls, I know that.  And I am sure they could count the grains of sand and find that number of reasons for them to spend a lifetime with those women.

What is it about guys that make us so ardently romantic (in thought mostly).  Should this be considered hardwired genetics instilled for the purpose of procreation, set into work by our Creator.  Nah, probably more a cultural thing.  I think the places where you find these slipknot cavaliers are the more westernized regions.

One thing I think girls need to realize about men under such an influence is that we are more romantic that you girls are, with the level of creativy to back it up.  I don't say this to diminish the significance of emotional contributions that any woman may have to offer, but I say there is great reason and logic behind this.  This reason, this logic... well that would take a few pages worth of posting to explain.  Take my word on this one.  The emotional potential of a relationship rest a little more on men, as much as they should deny it.  I think we are like emotional vampire wanting to suck as much love as we can outta our female counterparts... but we really love you guys, we don't say it and think we love you enough to say it... for us love is expressed verbally and otherwise because the journey to love was a trip we took barefoot on rugged terrain in the hot sun of our intense burning for you.  Love because we could match it with the willingness to endure suffering to match.  Love means for a guy that he has crossed a line, reached a point of no return, and faced a limit which he has broken..

Now with these friend who just love these girls so much they don't want to let go they get excited and want to marry, justly so.  But my friends, easy.  Remember how you first approached love, you asked yourself a sequence of questions to discern where you stood.  Columbus upon approach the shores of the Americas ask a number of question to determine his location, until through logic he discovered he wasn't in india.  When all our quandries were satisfied, and all systems showed green, we hit the launch button and went at full throttle, because thats the only speed that could break the gravity of situation.  That's LOVE!

But now marriage is like that.  Start asking the question because right now, your love is outta this world... but marriage means that we must now leave the moon station and journey toward the more distant stars... Trusting in God and understanding yourself... endeavor of both... are all systems green?  The answer once again makes the decision.  Me and Sam were discussing how this decision is a two part, but its answer is binary... pass or fail... make sure both lights are lit... and make sure all systems are green.

Trust in God,

Dean N. Gunraj